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Preventing Allergies at Work Takes a Multi-Pronged Approach

About once a month, Desiree DeFlorimonte had to change a ceiling panel in one corner of her office at work, encrusted as it was with black mold. This pattern continued for seven years, over the course of which DeFlorimonte, 60, suffered from a barrage of respiratory problems.

"It was hell living through it," DeFlorimonte said. "I was at the doctor's office every few months," constantly sneezing, coughing, and experiencing respiratory infections, she said.

Her mold allergies, and the medications she took to relieve them, made DeFlorimonte, a reading specialist at a Maryland grade school, miserable -- and less productive.



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2 months ago

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2 months ago

Facing Foreclosure? 'Short Sale' Could Help

As the national mortgage crisis threatens millions of Americans, more people than ever are choosing to short-sale their homes rather than face foreclosure.

A short sale occurs when a lender agrees to allow a homeowner to sell the home for less than the mortgage owed on it. The lender either absorbs the difference or requires a borrower to pay it back in a lump sum judgment or payment plan.

This allows homeowners to walk away from their houses without going into foreclosure and seriously damaging their credit.

In 2007 there were 2.2 million new foreclosure filings in America, up nearly 80 percent compared with the previous year. The average foreclosure cost lenders $40,000, and the last thing banks and lenders want is more houses to sell.

For many, a short sale is now looking like the last best option. Though it still diminishes one's credit rating, the short sale is often vastly preferable to other options.

Real Estate Contributor and "Wall Street Journal" reporter Wendy Bounds shared the details on what you need to know about short foreclosure selling your home on "Good Morning America" today.

Prove inability to make payments

The first thing you need to do is prove to the lender that you real estate commercial can't make payments at the adjustable level. That will require some filing of paper work, some documentation showing that your income has gone down.

Find a willing buyer

The second thing is to find a buyer who is willing to buy the home at a discount rate. To do that you have to get a knowledgeable real estate agent or attorney involved, maybe someone who specializes in real estate short sales. That's important because pricing is incredibly important in the search to find the right buyer.



Get lender to approve sale

Lastly, you need to get the lender to approve the sale once you do find a buyer. That's why it's important to work with the lender as much as possible. That's going to make it that much easier for you in the long run.

If you can't complete a short sale



If the homeowner isn't able to complete a short sale, the next option is either foreclosure or handing over the deed to the bank in lieu of foreclosure. Those options are worse for your credit than a short sale -- that's why it's so important to get the pricing right. Work closely with an agent who specializes in this kind of thing and work closely with your lender so you'll know what to expect.

Your home is your most important asset

Your house is the most important asset that you will own. Be smart and get everything in line, realize when the situation is deteriorating, write a compelling letter to the lender. That way, you'll be able to get people to pay some attention to you. Pay attention to your home and don't be in denial about the reality of this market.

3 months ago

The Connection Between Sexual Pain and Pleasure

"We must embrace pain and burn it as fuel for our journey." -Kenji Miyazawa

The relationship between pain and pleasure in human sexuality is as profound as it is complex. It is a polarity that lives in each of us and deserves our curiosity. Sadly, it is not unusual for us to close down to situations that we fear will bring pain and discomfort. Replacing our tendency of avoidance with a capacity for wonder when it comes to our pain associations with sex is eye opening and has the potential to release an untapped capacity for pleasure.

Each time I have sex I am struck by the ecstatic release of deep pleasure, which ignites an equal neck pain right side release of intense pain. The pelvic cavity, one of the most miraculous wonders in the human body, balancing both the capacity to walk erect and procreate, is a truth teller for most of us. It is an internal space where sensation is leader and I have long wondered what begets what, if it is actually the intensity of the pain that arouses the pleasure or the other way around. So difficult it is to tease out, that I have come to believe that the pain/pleasure of our deepest sexual release is one in the same.

In fact, love, sex, pain and violence all stimulate the release of similar chemicals and hormones in the human body. Endorphins that are released in painful experiences are often perceived as pleasurable. Stress and pain can also stimulate the serotonin and melatonin production in the brain, which transforms painful experiences into pleasure. The release of epinephrine and norepinephrine in pain can also cause a pleasurable 'rush'. Normal human biological response actually supports the complex and mysterious link between pain and pleasure, which we see in the runner's high and the facial expressions during orgasmic release.

Given our biology, it is not terribly surprising that the practice of combining painful techniques with sexuality is ancient. Roman poets, ancient tribal drawings and even the Kama Sutra all refer to safe practices of what has come to be known as BDSM. This acronym, which refers to Bondage, Discipline, Sadism and Masochism, reflects the ancient sexual rituals of sexual dominance and submission that have qualified sex throughout history. Depending on the study examined, particularly in the U.S. and Europe, the percentages of people who practice some form of these techniques is between 10-25%. Interestingly, this percentage is matched by an equally significant percentage of people who become cutoff from their sexuality due to their fear of the pain associated with sex.



Looking at how our sexual experience is mirrored in the emotions and soul of our relationship offers an illuminating perspective. Here is my hypothesis: loving someone emotionally creates the same pain/pleasure experience that lives in the body while making love to them. The moments of deep connection and intimacy, vulnerability and nakedness are matched by their opposite experience: feeling deeply hurt by your lover, by what was said, or, just as often, what went unsaid.

The act of loving in whatever form requires a willingness to experience both the pain and pleasure. This is the piece of sustaining loving relationships that is easy to miss, or at least misunderstand, and tragically the place where we walk away from the heart of what we want most.

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3 months ago

Secret Santas: Inside the hidden online world of St. Nicks

Secret Santas: Inside the hidden online world of St. Nicks

Santa Claus is coming to town, or actually, the internet.

Like so much of the planet, the jolly red man has found a home online. Booking gigs, talking with fans, finding the perfect red suit -- it all happens there. But like many of us mere mortals, Santa's social life and work life are two different worlds that just sometimes merge. That's where secret online communities come in.

Yes, there are Santas on LinkedIn and others marketing themselves on social media, but "Santa groupies" and a need for more privacy have driven many to connect in hidden online groups.

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3 months ago

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3 months ago

Understanding Ohm's Law

We have been told and know that V=IR, but why does it work? This is a simple explanation of Ohm's law and why it works.

First, Let's start with the terms:

V=voltage

The easiest way to think of voltage is to call it potential. In fact, lots of people refer to voltage a potential. Voltage is the potential to do work. Imagine two bodies of water connected with a pipe. If one body of water is higher than the other then there is potential for water to flow from the high potential to the low potential.

I=current



Current is simply the transfer of something from one place to another. In the example with two bodies of water connected with a pipe, the current is the actual flow of water through the pipe between the two bodies of water.

R=resistance

Resistance is the, well, resistance. It is anything that opposes the flow of current. In the example of two bodies of water connected click over here now by a pipe, resistance is formed by the pipe. As the pipe gets wider, more current flows because the resistance gets lower. As the pipe gets narrower, less current flows because the resistance gets higher. If there were no pipe between the two bodies of water, then we woud say there is infinite resistance. No current would flow.

So now lets put it all together, and create ohm's law. Let's try to solve for I (current) based on what we know about voltage (potential) and resistance.

First we will start with voltage. If go to this site we think back to the example of two bodies of water connected with a pipe. If we move the higher body of water even higher, then we create more potential between the two bodies of water. If nothing about the pipe between them changes, then the water will flow faster. Therefore, if V goes up, I goes up.

Now we look at resistance. If we constrict the pipe by making it less wide then we get less water flow. We have increased the resistance of the pipe. Thus, if R goes up, I goes down.

Now we can put it all together:

I=V/R

This equation covers all of our requirements for the relationships between voltage, current, and resistance. If we rearrange the equation we get:



V=I*R